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Busayo's avatar

What an amazing adventure that was! Thank you for your guidance and this labour of love, Sav. This is a life enhancing community that you are curating here and I’m so happy to be along for the ride! 🤗🌀

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Savannah Kizzie-Rai | LPC's avatar

Thank you so much I am so excited for you to be here and join us 🥰🫶🏽

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Ibukundaniels's avatar

Hi, Sav. Thank you for this week's article. I have noticed that I am overtly concerned with other people's perceptions of me. Now, I understand on a logical level that people's perceptions of me is totally their business, but the habit of looking for tiny cues of approval from people still shows up quite often, and whenever I notice it, I feel frustrated. Also, I think I have a warped perception of myself.

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Savannah Kizzie-Rai | LPC's avatar

Thank you for sharing! This is extremely common. Even for those of us with the awareness and skills.

See if you can identify which settings trigger what I call “getting scratchy” 🤣

Think of your nervous system, as if it’s addicted to needing to know what other people perceive of you. And every time you bring your attention to that you give it it’s fix. Essentially enabling it.

Notice what environments or people make the nervous system hungry for mind reading

And then see if you can interrupt that by shifting your attention.

In certain capacities especially professional ones, if I make a mistake it’s easy for my mind to want to spiral. Then I realize wait a minute. I actually don’t have to feel bad about that. Then I can giggle about it🤭😂

I have clients (and my self) put sticky notes on the mirror in the bathroom. Write something that makes you feel proud of you. Put it there every day

It all takes time and practice

Go easy on yourself.

We truly don’t have to be perfect in a world that’s not ☺️

Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself- Dr. Joe Dispenza

Great book!

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Ibukundaniels's avatar

Thank you so much, Sav. I will give this book a read and just as you have mentioned, I will start to notice when these patterns are surfacing and interrupt them. Your response means alot to me. I absolutely love your content and I look forward to spending more time in the safari. :)

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Savannah Kizzie-Rai | LPC's avatar

Yay! 🤗

I am glad that you are here joining us on the safari. Thank you for supporting my work☺️

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Lauren Hawkins's avatar

This was amazing. You managed to explain concepts introduced to me in therapy in a way that I can completely connect to myself and my experiences. Your writing is so beautiful and valuable to so many💕

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