This was amazing. You managed to explain concepts introduced to me in therapy in a way that I can completely connect to myself and my experiences. Your writing is so beautiful and valuable to so many💕
What an amazing adventure that was! Thank you for your guidance and this labour of love, Sav. This is a life enhancing community that you are curating here and I’m so happy to be along for the ride! 🤗🌀
Hi, Sav. Thank you for this week's article. I have noticed that I am overtly concerned with other people's perceptions of me. Now, I understand on a logical level that people's perceptions of me is totally their business, but the habit of looking for tiny cues of approval from people still shows up quite often, and whenever I notice it, I feel frustrated. Also, I think I have a warped perception of myself.
Thank you for sharing! This is extremely common. Even for those of us with the awareness and skills.
See if you can identify which settings trigger what I call “getting scratchy” 🤣
Think of your nervous system, as if it’s addicted to needing to know what other people perceive of you. And every time you bring your attention to that you give it it’s fix. Essentially enabling it.
Notice what environments or people make the nervous system hungry for mind reading
And then see if you can interrupt that by shifting your attention.
In certain capacities especially professional ones, if I make a mistake it’s easy for my mind to want to spiral. Then I realize wait a minute. I actually don’t have to feel bad about that. Then I can giggle about it🤭😂
I have clients (and my self) put sticky notes on the mirror in the bathroom. Write something that makes you feel proud of you. Put it there every day
It all takes time and practice
Go easy on yourself.
We truly don’t have to be perfect in a world that’s not ☺️
Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself- Dr. Joe Dispenza
Thank you so much, Sav. I will give this book a read and just as you have mentioned, I will start to notice when these patterns are surfacing and interrupt them. Your response means alot to me. I absolutely love your content and I look forward to spending more time in the safari. :)
Lisa Feldman barrett hmmm interesting I've battled with a weird deja vu type anxiety rush most of my life all negative memory like I lived that moment prior trying to prevent what I think is about to happen i dont know if its relevant to her or research or findings but it stuck a nerve hmmmm
ooo good data collecting! yes! that is your body trying to anticipate future threat by pulling from the past to confirm the future. In those moments what can you say to yourself, or what can you do for yourself to remind your body it is in the now and not the familiar past? what would happen if you didn't " try and prevent" and just let it be. just watched it. observed it, the same way you are with the content and Lisa Barretts work. what would happen if you observed the "deja vu type anxiety" almost with paper pen ready to take notes of what you observe. :)
Oh snap first of all lemme thank you for your time even replying to this SAV!!! I really appreciate that. BUT to add a layer of considerable solution means in entire different experience is available, I've never even considered (I SAY TO SELF bring it on next skarry deja vu), lets examine you closer THX for the confidence 😀 be BLESSED UP 🙌 😇 🙏
This was insightful and the simplicity of your explanation of the concepts of perception and expectations and how they shape our response is brilliant. It is effectively explaining the importance or the why of staying in the present moment whilst going beyond the advice of simply "staying in the present". Thank you
This was amazing. You managed to explain concepts introduced to me in therapy in a way that I can completely connect to myself and my experiences. Your writing is so beautiful and valuable to so many💕
Thank you very much for the kind words and for taking the time to read mine🥹🫶🏽
What an amazing adventure that was! Thank you for your guidance and this labour of love, Sav. This is a life enhancing community that you are curating here and I’m so happy to be along for the ride! 🤗🌀
Thank you so much I am so excited for you to be here and join us 🥰🫶🏽
Hi, Sav. Thank you for this week's article. I have noticed that I am overtly concerned with other people's perceptions of me. Now, I understand on a logical level that people's perceptions of me is totally their business, but the habit of looking for tiny cues of approval from people still shows up quite often, and whenever I notice it, I feel frustrated. Also, I think I have a warped perception of myself.
Thank you for sharing! This is extremely common. Even for those of us with the awareness and skills.
See if you can identify which settings trigger what I call “getting scratchy” 🤣
Think of your nervous system, as if it’s addicted to needing to know what other people perceive of you. And every time you bring your attention to that you give it it’s fix. Essentially enabling it.
Notice what environments or people make the nervous system hungry for mind reading
And then see if you can interrupt that by shifting your attention.
In certain capacities especially professional ones, if I make a mistake it’s easy for my mind to want to spiral. Then I realize wait a minute. I actually don’t have to feel bad about that. Then I can giggle about it🤭😂
I have clients (and my self) put sticky notes on the mirror in the bathroom. Write something that makes you feel proud of you. Put it there every day
It all takes time and practice
Go easy on yourself.
We truly don’t have to be perfect in a world that’s not ☺️
Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself- Dr. Joe Dispenza
Great book!
Thank you so much, Sav. I will give this book a read and just as you have mentioned, I will start to notice when these patterns are surfacing and interrupt them. Your response means alot to me. I absolutely love your content and I look forward to spending more time in the safari. :)
Yay! 🤗
I am glad that you are here joining us on the safari. Thank you for supporting my work☺️
Lisa Feldman barrett hmmm interesting I've battled with a weird deja vu type anxiety rush most of my life all negative memory like I lived that moment prior trying to prevent what I think is about to happen i dont know if its relevant to her or research or findings but it stuck a nerve hmmmm
ooo good data collecting! yes! that is your body trying to anticipate future threat by pulling from the past to confirm the future. In those moments what can you say to yourself, or what can you do for yourself to remind your body it is in the now and not the familiar past? what would happen if you didn't " try and prevent" and just let it be. just watched it. observed it, the same way you are with the content and Lisa Barretts work. what would happen if you observed the "deja vu type anxiety" almost with paper pen ready to take notes of what you observe. :)
Oh snap first of all lemme thank you for your time even replying to this SAV!!! I really appreciate that. BUT to add a layer of considerable solution means in entire different experience is available, I've never even considered (I SAY TO SELF bring it on next skarry deja vu), lets examine you closer THX for the confidence 😀 be BLESSED UP 🙌 😇 🙏
This was insightful and the simplicity of your explanation of the concepts of perception and expectations and how they shape our response is brilliant. It is effectively explaining the importance or the why of staying in the present moment whilst going beyond the advice of simply "staying in the present". Thank you
Reading all these interactions are soothing 😌 ✨️