Hey Data Collectors,
It’s Sav…
This is a deeply honest, unfiltered voice note that's been sitting heavy on my heart. I reference a public figure in this episode, but I want to be very clear: this is not an attack. This is not about targeting anyone's journey – it's about naming a pattern that's repeating across the algorithm, in our homes, in our therapy offices, and in our family systems.
When someone pivots publicly – whether through religion, identity, or performance. We often miss the deeper grief underneath that's happening right under our noses. We see over functioning and think it means someone is "doing well." But sometimes, the child who gets straight A's the adult who finds God, or the person who rebrand overnight is just trying to survive. And no one sees them slipping until it's too late. This episode isn't about one person. It's about all of us. It's about the shadow. We're afraid of face. It's about the ache beneath the algorithm. It's about the performance of healing, the danger of validation, loops, and the ways we reenact our own trauma stories in front of an audience—in front of the world.
Let this be a mirror, not a spotlight.
This is meant to be heavy. So I hope you feel the weight of this conversation and marinate in that heaviness.
I don’t usually ask this.
This space has grown through word of mouth, relationship, and trust and I’ve always let the work speak for itself. But for this piece, I’m asking for help. This episode is an outcry—not just as a clinician, but as a human who has lost someone to suicide.
That loss is the reason I chose this work. The Reason I Put Myself Out Here With My Work.
I do it for Her, For My Clients, For You…
There are people hurting quietly right now. Children hurting. Adults masking pain. Families missing the signs because so much suffering is being performed, explained away, or spiritually bypassed instead of seen.
I use humor because it helps us stay in the room—but the concern underneath this message is real. This is not content for clicks. It’s a call for awareness, attunement, and responsibility.
If this reaches you, and you know someone who might need to hear it—even if you don’t know why—please consider sharing it.
Not for me. For the people we’re missing.
Much Love,
— Sav 🤍
